I spent a lovely hour on the phone yesterday with Ms. Kitty Plum, and unsurprisingly, the conversation turned to bras. I explained my pure hatred of nude colored bras.
“It’s not that I’ve got anything against the color,” I explained, “I just spent all these years being forced into nude minimizer bras by Wacoal by my mother, and looking at them just brings back all these horrible feelings.”
Amazingly, she proceeded to tell me about the bra that made her feel that way too.
I realized then that lots of women probably have a bra nemesis. The bra that your mother made you wear, the bra you wore before you realized what size you actually were, the bras you were forced into when you were told you were either too small or too large for “normal” bras.
Yeah, that bra.
The worst part was my bra nemesis was still in my closet when I started writing lingerie columns. It was on the back of a high shelf being ignored, but it wasn’t gone. When my lingerie collection finally grew past a tiny drawer, I cleared out that closet and filled it with new bras that fit. Then, I threw out my old minimizer bra. New closet, new beginnings.
I still have that reaction to nude bras though. The closet I own to a plain bra is a black Freya that is ugly but useful under dresses. I’m pretty sure it all goes back to those early bra experiences where I felt like a freak every time I went bra shopping. The woman my mom buys bras from still refers to me as “Oh, the G cup girl!”.
I was thinking about all of this the other day when I ran across this amazingly gorgeous Wacoal bra. It truly shocked me. It was classy, feminine, and came in a gorgeous array of colors. If they made it in my size, I would have snapped it up right away. I started thinking that maybe all of my negative feelings had more to do with the horrible feelings I had about my body as a teenager rather than the bra I blamed it all on.
So, since Thursday is a good day for discussions, I’m asking you to weigh in on these questions. Do you have a bra nemesis? Have you made peace with it? Are there certain kinds of bras you won’t buy due to bad personal experiences? Let me know in the comments.